So.
You’ve been quietly reading tarot cards, talking to the moon, collecting suspicious amounts of herbs and suddenly realising you own enough candles to concern the fire brigade.
And now you’re wondering:
“Do I actually tell people I’m a witch?”
Honestly? That question carries a surprising amount of emotional weight.
Because it’s not really just about witchcraft.
It’s about being seen.
And that can feel vulnerable as fuck.
Especially if you grew up in environments where being “different” got mocked, dismissed or treated like something embarrassing you should keep hidden.
So let’s talk about it properly.
Without pressure.
Without the internet yelling:
“JUST BE YOUR FULL AUTHENTIC SELF BABE.”
Because real life is a bit more complicated than that sometimes.
You Don’t Owe Anyone an Explanation
First things first.
You do not have to tell anyone.
Not your family.
Not your colleagues.
Not your mate Sharon who already thinks herbal tea is suspiciously political.
Your practice belongs to you.
And honestly, private magic is still real magic.
Some witches stay completely private forever.
Some tell one trusted person.
Some casually mention moon phases and slowly escalate until suddenly everybody accepts they own seventeen jars of rosemary and talk to plants now.
All valid.
And importantly:
keeping yourself safe does not make you less authentic.
It makes you sensible.
Especially if:
- you live with judgmental family
- your workplace would react badly
- your environment feels unsafe
- you simply don’t want the hassle
You are not spiritually obligated to become everybody’s educational experience.
Signs You Might Be Ready
Sometimes though, you start feeling a quiet pressure inside yourself.
Not because you want attention.
But because hiding parts of yourself gets exhausting.
You might notice:
- you’re tired of pretending certain things don’t matter to you
- you want community
- you stop yourself mentioning meaningful parts of your life
- you feel smaller around certain people
- you’re constantly editing yourself to stay “acceptable”
And honestly, that takes energy.
A lot of it.
Especially for those of us raised in that very British:
“Don’t make a fuss, don’t stand out, don’t be weird publicly”
sort of culture.
Eventually you realise:
“I’m actually tired of hiding things that bring me peace.”
That’s often where the shift starts.
You Don’t Have to Arrive in Full Witch Mode Immediately
Coming out of the broom closet does not require:
- dramatic announcements
- public declarations
- posting “I AM A WITCH” graphics online
- turning up at Tesco dressed like the High Priestess of Aldi
Honestly, quiet honesty is usually enough.
You can start gently.
Maybe:
- wearing a pentacle necklace
- mentioning moon phases casually
- talking about herbalism
- saying you practice folk spirituality
- openly carrying tarot cards without stuffing them under the sofa whenever visitors arrive
Tiny steps still count.
And honestly, half the time people react far less dramatically than the anxious brain predicts beforehand.
Most people are too busy worrying about their own lives to launch a medieval witch trial over your rosemary bundles.
Handling Skepticism or Pushback
Now look.
Some people will not get it.
That’s reality.
You will occasionally meet people who:
- mock things they don’t understand
- assume witchcraft means Hollywood nonsense
- get weirdly defensive
- suddenly think you’re hexing traffic lights for entertainment
And honestly?
You do not need to waste your life trying to convince everybody.
Some people are committed to misunderstanding things.
That’s their business.
You are allowed to say:
“This matters to me.”
without writing a dissertation defending your spiritual choices.
Boundaries are magical too.
And frankly, middle age teaches you something important eventually:
Not everybody deserves unlimited access to you.
Or your energy.
Or your inner world.
Some people get the edited version because they’ve not earned the full story.
That’s not fake.
That’s wisdom.
Celebrate the Little Steps
Coming out of the broom closet often happens gradually anyway.
Quietly.
Organically.
It might look like:
- finally putting your tarot cards on the shelf instead of hiding them
- mentioning the full moon out loud
- carrying crystals openly
- posting something witchy online without panicking afterwards
- admitting you do actually believe in energy, intuition and magic
Every little step says:
“I deserve to exist honestly.”
And honestly, there’s something deeply healing about that.
Especially if you’ve spent years feeling like you had to shrink yourself to stay comfortable for other people.
A Simple Spell for Confidence
Before difficult conversations or vulnerable moments, keep things simple.
Stand in front of a mirror if you want to, or just sit quietly somewhere calm.
Put your hands over your heart and breathe properly for a minute.
Then say:
“I am safe in myself.
I honour my truth.
I do not need permission to be who I am.”
That’s enough.
No dramatic ritual required.
Sometimes confidence grows through tiny repeated moments of self-trust rather than huge fearless declarations.
And honestly? That’s usually much more sustainable anyway.
Final Thoughts on Coming Out of the Broom Closet
Yes, sometimes people will see you differently.
But sometimes that’s not a bad thing.
Sometimes honesty clears space for better connections. More genuine friendships. People who actually understand you instead of just the edited acceptable version you’ve been offering them.
And honestly, there’s something incredibly freeing about finally relaxing into yourself.
Not performing.
Not hiding.
Not constantly filtering your interests to avoid judgment.
Just existing comfortably as the strange little moon-loving goblin woman you were probably always going to become eventually.
That doesn’t mean it’s easy.
Especially for those of us raised to keep unusual things quiet and “not make a scene”.
But it does get easier with time.
And whether your path stays private, becomes public or sits somewhere in the middle, your witchcraft is still real.
You are still a witch.
Even if nobody else knows yet.
Even if only the moon hears you speak your intentions out loud.
Even if your entire practice currently lives in one slightly chaotic kitchen drawer beside takeaway menus and batteries.
It still counts.
And honestly?
There are far more witches walking quietly through ordinary life than you probably realise.
You’re not alone in this.
Not even close.

